Personal Development

Smart person

4:30 Rule #1 – “Stand up straight with your shoulders back” “Where this counter that you share with lobsters rates you in terms of your hierarchical position, determines the ratio of negative emotion to positive emotion that you feel.”

16:23 Rule #2 – “Treat yourself like you’re someone that you care about.” “Why people are contemptuous of themselves – the reasons do not justify the mistreatment of yourself.” 22:53

Rule #3 – “Make friends with people that want the best for you.” “Like you have an ethical responsibility to take care of yourself, you have an ethical responsibility to surround yourself with people who have the courage, faith, and wisdom to wish you well when you have done something good and to stop you when you have done something destructive.”

25:44 Rule #4 – “Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.” “you have to be careful who you compare yourself to.”

37:23 Rule #5 – “Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them.” “pursue what’s meaningful and you’ll encounter that which you least want to encounter.”

48:53 Rule #6 – “(Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world)” “Resentful people that wanna change the world should not be trusted.”

58:47 Rule #7 – “Do what is meaningful, not what is expedient” “You have to understand that you could not only do what the Nazi camp guards did in Auschwitz, but that you could actually enjoy it… and then you have to decide that you’re not gonna do that anymore.”

Rule #8 “Tell the truth — or, at least, don’t lie”

1:05:01 Rule #9 – “Assume that the person you’re listening to might know something you don’t.” “What you don’t know is more important than what you know.”

1:11:44 Rule #11 – “Don’t bother children when they’re skateboarding.” “You want to adopt responsibility for [your] life. To tell the truth. Understand that [your] failure to participate fully in being leaves a hole that’s precisely the size of [your] soul in the cultural landscape.”

1:17:09 Rule #12 – “Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street.” “You have to be alert when you’re suffering to the unexpected beauty in life.”

1:24:32 Question: “(What would you do in a situation where people are not listening to what you have to say?)” Answer: “Do not cast pearls before swine.” “If people are not listening to you. Stop talking to them. Watch them, and they will tell you what they’re up to.”

1:26:17 Question: “Where do you fall short in these 12 rules, is it a constant adjustment?” Answer: “You never attain the ideal. Not only that, it recedes as you approach it.” “It’s not so much that there isn’t such a thing as a good person. It’s that our idea of what constitutes good isn’t right.” “You learn things painfully. When you learn something painfully, a part of you has to die – that’s the pain.” “Life is a constant process of death and rebirth. To participate in that fully is to allow yourself to be redeemed by it.” “Until the entire world is redeemed, we all fall short.”